Sex, LOA and the Love of Your Life

From Hawaiian Cruise,
Guest: So I came up here to talk about pleasure and sex. [Audience: yeah!]Because it has been resonating through every night we've been up at the Crow's Nest—[disco bar] "crowing." And it's just been great fun, and I'm seeing all this energy happening, and I've not heard you talk about that on the DVD's, so I wanted to get your thoughts about it.
Abraham: Related to what? It's a big topic.
Guest: It is. [laughs] Relating to relationships, and in congruencies of beliefs—so, as we become freer and freer, how does sex play into our lives? As we get more into alignment.
Abraham: The most important thing to remember is that it never works to try to—in an action, sense,--- sort out all of the possibilities and define right behavior and wrong behavior. And that's mostly what people attempt to do around the subject. Instead, from the life experience that you have lived, define as best you can, what you want, and then become a vibrational match to what you want, and you will attract into your experience those who want that same thing. For example, let's take the subject of wanting one life partner or wanting many sexual partners. Very different stances relative to the subject of sexuality. So let's say you are someone who has defined through what you've lived and the relationships that you've watched unfold, and through your own experience, you now are looking for A person that you can be involved with completely. And make, at least from where you are standing now, your life partner.And you want to be true to that person in the sense that you will only be with that person, and you want that person to be true to you in that same sense. So, that's what you've decided, those are the thoughts you think; you don't give attention to other thoughts; that becomes your vibration; it's what's in your vibrational escrow; Source calls you toward it; you follow the impulse; you meet up with that person, you recognize one another because that's the way you intended it to be, and you live Happily Ever After.
Let me interject here. There was a very illuminating conversation earlier in the cruise between Abraham and a guest who wanted to see the whales. Abraham explained very clearly how these rendezvous between the humans and the whale occur, and why the success rate was so very high. In a nutshell: BECAUSE WE HAVE NOT PRACTICED A LIFETIME OF DIS-BELIEVING WE CAN MEET UP WITH A WHALE!]But let's say, that while you want all of that, and while you believe it is possible, that you have been listening to what others are doing, and you do remember experiences that you've had, and you have experienced betrayal of people that you thought would be true to you, and so, even though that IS what you want, that's not the drum that you often beat. And so, you have something you don't want active in your vibration. So what you do want is over here---but what's active in your vibration is over here, in fact it's more dominant, so the people you keep attracting to you are the exact opposite of what you really want.
Guest: Um-hum.
Abraham: And you lose faith in humanity; you lose faith in your ability to get what you want; you begin saying things like, "The kind of person I want is no longer out there." When it isn't that the person isn't out there, it's that you're not a vibrational match to your own intention. So, there is not a right or a wrong way to approach this or anything. Your life has helped you define, from where you now stand, what you want, and it may be that you will intend it one way, and maybe live it that way for a while, and maybe change your mind. There is not one-right-right- way. But in order to have a satisfying experience, no matter what the topic of it is, you've got to be in alignment with --- You. So, again, we talked about this earlier---- when you take the time to find vibrational alignment, then the action part of it comes easy. You get impulses, and as you follow the impulse, you end up at the right place at the right time, and life unfolds so easily. We were visiting with a woman recently—very recently—who said, "I am old." She basically said, "I am in my forties, [laughter from the audience].
Guest: That's funny!
Abraham… and I have just found the person that I want to spend my life with, and we only met 30 days ago, and we're engaged to be married, and our families are---especially my family-- very upset about this, because they think that I am moving too fast"And we said, "It wasn't really that fast. In your lifetime, you were identifying what you were wanting, and you have just now found a releasing of resistance, so you've allowed yourself to move to where what you want is."That's what relationships are about. Look at relationships as Law of Attraction and vibrational escrow and see the Love of Your Life in whatever form you want it to be, --there. [in vibrational escrow] with your Inner Being, and reach for Downstream Thoughts, and you'll go right there! And it doesn't take that long. You could have been looking for months or years or decades, and in the understanding of this Knowing, and in the releasing of resistance, and in no longer beating the drum of worrying about getting something that you don't want, you'll turn, and you'll find exactly what you DO want.
Guest: Can we talk a little bit about self-pleasure, and how that plays into (no pun intended) the releasing of resistance, so to speak?
Abraham: Well, it is as relevant or as irrelevant as you want to make it. In other words, there is nothing right or wrong about anything. The question that you want to ask yourself, relative to all subjects is, "During my action, am I having Downstream thoughts?" That's the only thing that you need to be aware of. And any time you are having Downstream thoughts, anything that is happening while you are having the Downstream thoughts is of advantage. But, so often, people try to use action to replace thought. And that is the thing that we are encouraging: Let your thought come first, and let whatever action is inspired, happen, but let the thought be thoughts of Alignment. And then there is always benefit.
Guest: Have any of you experienced sex?
Abraham: There is nothing that you experience that is positive in nature that that which is nonphysical doesn't experience. In fact, even in meditation, sometimes people experience what they would call that sexual arousal or sensation. And that's what that is about. In fact, sexuality and alignment are not separate vibrations. But, again, you can take any subject and experience it from Upstream or Downstream. And you know the difference, you see.
Guest: OK. Thank you.