I want a mate

On the subject of attracting a mate




Abraham: So, just ramble a little bit. Just talk about what you want and why.
Guest: I want a mate who's a good friend, a playmate, someone to exchange ideas, to bring the best out of both of us....
Abe: Good. Now these are very good things. Now take that into a picture that brings more sensual, and we're not talking about sexual, we're talking about sensory perception. We want you to talk about it in a way that you feel like you're already there. And an easy way to way to do that is to remember any fun conversation that you've ever had with anyone. In other words, can you get inside that feeling of what it's like to just sit and visit with a good friend and you're on the same wavelength and you're almost not even needing to speak words because you're so in tune with each other that you're saying the same words over the top of each other? And as you're having experiences together you're just looking at each other and laughing, no words are even necessary because this thing that is manifested is exactly what you were just talking about and the Universe has delivered something to you that is so real and so on target with what you were talking about that it's like you and all of the Universe is in on this game together? Can you get the feeling of this? Can you imagine being so comfortable with this person, there is no feeling of embarrassment or negative judgement. In other words, there is just absolute adoration. You adore this person and you know this person
adores you. And so there you are in this lovely, comfortable interchange of unconditional love for each other. Can you feel how that feels? Now you see it's those kinds of little self-conversations that provide the vibrational nucleus that becomes your point of attraction that brings precisely what you are wanting. But most people who are standing in the place that you are standing that are wanting something like that aren't having those kinds of thoughts at all. Instead, they're having lonely thoughts, or they're remembering negative experiences.
Guest: But when you say that, and when I get to that feeling that you created, I can see myself with this person, but I had also utterly bad experiences with, though we had all that you...so I'm trying to....
Abe: So what you're saying is, every relationship is a mixed bag. (Yeah...) It's sort of like the wedding vows that someone conjured that says "In sickness, and in health. And in good times, and in bad times. And we will stay together no matter how bad we are to each other" sort of rings in your ears. And what you are wanting to do, you see, this is what we're talking about, about selectively sifting. You get to choose what aspects of that individual you hold in your consciousness. But it isn't until, oh here it is, it isn't until your dominant intent is to feel good that you discover this magic. As long as you're logically or realistically examining things you *have* to get the sickness and the health, the good times and the bad times.But you see it is only the physical world that is asking for your logic. The nonphysical world is asking for your obsession*. Your obsession with joy, your obsession with what feels good, your obsession with a floating cork, you see...." "...And we want you to become so sensitive to feeling good, that you are wanting to examine the positive parts of relationships. Sometimes if a relationship, or any particle of your experience, is a really mixed bag, where there are powerful things that feel good as well as powerful things that feel bad, sometimes it's better to stay off that subject altogether because as soon as you get hold of a piece that feels good it takes you right to a piece that feels bad. And often it is easier to go into, in other words, to pretend something or to remember a fairy tale or to read a book. Just remember, your work is to find things to ponder about the subject of a relationship that feel good to you. That is your homework. And if you can do it effectively for a week, wonderful people will start showing up in your life.
Guest: Thank you.
Abe: They're lined up outside your door."