Putting teens in a position light question...

ABRAHAM: It's not your job to make someone else vibrate. It's only your job to vibrate.
QUESTION: Does that also apply to parents raising rebellious teenagers--where they haven't had their own full life and maturity?
ABRAHAM: Oh, even more so. [laughter from the audience]
QUESTION: How should parents deal with guiding their children and their children's free will?
ABRAHAM: Yes, big topic isn't it? We'll give you the big picture here, and then we'll leave you to work out the details--which is the way it has always been. That's the joy of life. Here's the big picture. Here are these energies coming forth--these new beings coming into these bodies--these old beings coming into these new bodies with new fresh eagerness to experience. And here's the generation before them and one the before that and the one before that who have been banging around, who now greet this new clump of spirits saying, "Oh boy, if you knew what we KNOW." And they're saying, "Oh, no, we've come forth to remind you of what you've forgotten." And they're saying (the adults), "Oh if you only knew what we know. We need to tell you the paths we've been down so that we can prepare you for that path." And they say, "No, we have a different path. We have a different path. Our path is different." And they (the adults) say, "No, your path is the same is ours, and it has been hard in this way and this way."
What we are getting at here is that the generation gap will always be because it is divine. You come forth with a fresh eagerness and invincibility and a desire to examine the contrast without the biases that have been bogging everyone else down. Feel what it feels like to be born into this perfect environment with all of this to choose from and then have someone say, "Don't choose that. Don't choose that. That's a bad thing. That's a bad thing." What they are wanting to say to you is, "I have a
guidance system within me, and it isn't possible for me to choose wrong because if you will leave me alone, my intuition will let me know this feels better than this, and this feels better than this."
So as a parent who is understanding the law of attraction and the guidance system that is born within your children, what you are wanting to do--you have one goal and one goal only, and that is to be a catalyst, to assist them in connecting to their source. So much parenting happens from the place of seeing the child where you don't want them to be or where they may not want to be--and then as you see them there, losing your connection from source and then trying to guide them from your disconnected place. Every law, every rule in your universe whether it is secular or sacred comes from that place of disconnection. You have never made a good law, because every one of them has come from a guarded place of being more aware of what you do not want. What you are wanting to do is to understand that they have guidance within them--that if they are in tune with it, it will always serve them. Let your children know that you trust them. In other words, you are wanting to serve as an empowerer. The way to know how you are doing is to ask yourself, "Which feels better--that' s how your guidance system let's you know how well you're doing at fulfilling your intentions. So, which feels better? Your child is a teenager going off with a group of teenagers and you don't know who they are or what they've been doing on the Internet or what they have been thinking about. You don't know. So off they go. Which
feels better? To assume the worst or to assume the best? Which feels better? To be suspicious and to think they are sneaking around doing things they are not admitting to you, or to acknowledge that they have guidance within them and they know their own limits and that they are testing their own boundaries and they are discovering about themselves? Which feels better? To fear for them so that you lock them up and contain them and keep them from having experiences which might lead them astray, or to let them have experiences, trusting that is the only way they are going to get their sea legs, and that they cannot truly learn about life if they are not allowed to live life? Which feels better? To assume they have no guidance system whatsoever because they are too stupid--and so you need to make rules and then enforce them--or to understand they've got guidance within them that is with them every single moment and that if they had been encouraged by you to trust how smart they are, they would always make the right decision at the right time? Which feels better? To speak to them in these terms--"Now I know I'm older and wiser than you are and you really don't have enough experience to make the right decision, so go forth timidly and don't do anything without asking me," or to say to them, "You are born as a brilliant being with a guidance system and you have a smorgasbord to choose from and I'm exhilarated by what is before you and I know the decisions you make will always be appropriate for you." Which feels better? Ask them to live by your standards (which never worked for you)--where you say, "Here I stand in my perfection," or to say to them, "You never get it done--every place you stand there's going to be something more you want. And you have the potential to achieve anything you want." Which feels better? To limit them or to offer them expansion? Which feels better? To trust them or to doubt them? Which feels better? To love them or to worry about them? In other words, these are simple choices. Sometimes you say, "But Abraham, you don't understand the times in which we are living." And we say, "Of course we understand the times in which you are living. It's always been the same. There have always been those things you want and those things you don't want--and those things you want for your children and those things you don't want for your children. But the law of attraction has always been the same--when you say NO to anything, you are
including it in your vibration. So when you say NO to your children, NO you must not do that, what you are doing is making very sure that they are including in their vibration the very thing that you do not want them to include their vibration." And most of the time, they feel that. They may not know what is happening. They just know this dialogue with Dad or this dialogue with Mom does not feel good, and they want more than anything just to get out of that vibrational range. And they will go to any lengths usually to do it. And then you say, "My children are deceiving me. My
children are not minding me. My children are not respecting me." And we say, "Your children are following the guidance that is coming forth from within them, and if you will know that and trust that and encourage that and support that, you will find your children living expansive, exciting lives that will thrill you every step along their path."
What is the very worst thing that could happen to anyone? They could get disconnected from source energy. More parents are doing the very worst thing that could happen to their children through their negative expectations. Think about your own experience. Which do you prefer? Do prefer to be trusted or doubted? It's easy, isn't it? Do you prefer to be appreciated or criticized? Do you like it best when somebody sees your magnificent potential, or when they see you screwing up? What do you like amplified back to you? Your positive aspects or your negative aspects? So
as you acknowledge which feels better, which feels better--and then you always do that which feels better in relation to anyone who matters to you--you will always be the catalyst you were born to be--the catalyst to connect them to source energy.
Abraham Workshop Boulder, June 5 & 6