Alanis Morissette

21 THINGS I WANT IN A LOVER


...These are 21 things that I want in a lover

Not necessarily needs but qualities that I prefer

I figure I can describe it since I have a choice in the matter

These are 21 things I choose to choose in a lover


I'm in no hurry I could wait forever

I'm in no rush cuz I like being solo

There are no worries and certainly no pressure

In the meantime I'll live like there's no tomorrow...



UTOPIA


We'd gather around

All in a room

Fasten our belts

Engage in dialogue

We'd all slow down

Rest without guilt

Not lie without fear

Disagree sans jugement


We would stay and respond and expand and include and allow and forgive and

Enjoy and evolve and discern and inquire and accept and admit and divulge and

Open and reach out and speak up



This is utopia

This is my utopia

This is my ideal my end in sight

Utopia

This is my utopia

This is my nirvana

My ultimate



We'd open our arms

We'd all jump in

We'd all coast down

Into safety nets



We would share and listen and support and welcome be propelled by passion not

Invest in outcomes we would breathe and be charmed and amused by difference

Be gentle and make room for every emotion



This is utopia

This is my utopia

This is my ideal my end in sight

Utopia

This is my utopia

This is my nirvana

My ultimate



We'd provide forums

We'd all speak out

We'd all be heard

We'd all feel seen



We'd rise post-obstacle more defined more grateful we would heal be humbled

And be unstoppable we'd hold close and let go and know when to do which we'd

Release and disarm and stand up and feel safe



This is utopia

This is my utopia

This is my ideal my end in sight

Utopia

This is my utopia

This is my nirvana

My ultimate


YOU OWE ME NOTHING IN RETURN



I'll give you countless amounts of outright

Acceptance if you want it. I will give you

Encouragment to choose the path that you want if you need it.



You can speak of anger and doubts,

Your fears and freak-outs and I'll hold it.

You can share your so-called

Shamefilled accounts of times in your life and I won't judge it.



And there are no strings attached to it

You owe me nothing for giving the love that I give.

You owe me nothing for caring the way that I have.

I give you thanks for receiving, it's my privilege,

And you owe me nothing in return.



You can ask for space for yourself

And only yourself and I'll grant it.

You can ask for freedom as well

Or time to travel and you'll have it.



You can ask to live by yourself

Or love someone else and I'll support it.

You can ask for anything you want

Anything at all and I'll understand it.



And there are no strings attached to it

You owe me nothing for giving the love that I give.

You owe me nothing for caring the way that I have.

I give you thanks for receiving, it's my privilege,

And you owe me nothing in return.



I bet you're wonderin' when

The next payback shoe will eventually drop.

I bet you're wonderin' when my conditional police will force you to cough up.

I bet you're wonderin' how far you now have danc-ed your way back into debt.



This is the only kind of love

As I understand it

That there really is.

You can express your deepest of truths

Even if it means I'll lose you and I'll hear it.



You can fall into the abyss

On the way to your bliss

I'll empathize with.

You can say that you'll have to skip town

To chase your passion and I'll hear it.

You can even hit rock bottom have a mid-life chrisis and I'll hold it.



And there are no strings attached to it

You owe me nothin' for giving the love that I give.

You owe me nothin' for caring the way that I have.

I give you thanks for receiving, it's my privilege,

And you owe me nothing in return.



You owe me nothin' for giving the love that I give.

You owe me nothin' for caring the way that I have.

I give you thanks for receiving, it's my privilege,

And you owe me nothing in return.