I Cannot Lose Weight

“I’ve been overweight for as long as I can remember. There were a few brief times in my life when I was able to force my weight under control through uncomfortable dieting and what felt like deprivation, and through arduous exercise. But none of it was easy, and I wasn’t able to maintain the regimen for long, and so the unwanted weight always came back. “I don’t feel comfortable in my clothes and dread shopping for new ones. I stand in front of my closet looking for something to wear, and even though I have some nice things, nothing appeals to me because I don’t like the way I look no matter what I’m wearing. “My body doesn’t move well, and I know that I’d feel so much better all around if I could just lose a few pounds, but I feel powerless to do anything about this excess weight, so I’m very discouraged.”

Now we want to begin this discussion by reminding you of the most important part of Deliberate Creation: Creating is not about making things happen through action. In fact, creating is not about making things happen at all. Creating is about allowing the thing that you desire to happen, and the allowing happens through Energy alignment, not through action. Sometimes this is a hard thing for you to hear because you know, from your personal experience in life, that action does get results. You know that you have been able to shed unwanted pounds by decreasing your food consumption, and there is no question in your mind that the exercise helped,
too. And we are not disagreeing with any of that, for it is obvious that action does have a place in the creating of many things. In fact, without action, your society would be without a great many of its things. But when you make action the cornerstone of your Creative Process without considering the vibrational basis of your Being as you are taking the action, you are working under a distinct handicap, for there simply is not enough power in the action itself to compensate for the competing Energies of your misaligned thought.
You may recall a successful experience where someone offered you an idea regarding losing weight, and you felt an immediate enthusiasm toward the idea. Your enthusiasm could be attributed to the power of the belief of the person who offered the idea to you, or it could be that the idea dovetailed precisely with beliefs of your own . . . but it is your enthusiasm that we want to call your attention toward.
Your enthusiasm was the evidence that the vibration of your Being was in alignment. And then, remember what happened next: You were eager to take the action—and in taking it, positive results occurred. . . . It is possible to take action because someone suggests it or encourages it or even demands it; and once involved in the action, your attitude can begin to improve. But the deliberate alignment of your vibration, first—which then inspires successful action—is a much more powerful
approach to whatever it is you want to create. During your discouraged moments as you acknowledged that your body was not as you would like it to be, you were launching rockets of desire about what you preferred, and within all of that
processing of life—and without realizing it—you have been adding to your Vibrational Escrow. You have created a vibrational version of the new-and-improved physical version of yourself. We want to help you understand that this is not a flimsy dream floating somewhere in your imagination. This is not a delusional departure from reality. This is a creation in the making, and it is being created in precisely the same way that everything you see around you has been created: The living of life gave birth to the idea or thought—which, in time, with focus, became what you call
your “reality.” So the discouragement that you have been feeling is indicating the discord between the continually evolving creation of your beautiful body and the thoughts that you continue to think regarding your body. Your body has been vibrationally evolving, but your old patterns of thoughts, your beliefs (which are only thoughts that you continue to think), are causing a vibrational discord. And under those conditions, successful action cannot be inspired or performed. Under those conditions, all action is harder, yielding little or no results, causing more discouragement still. The key to bringing your body to a new place is to see it differently from the way it is. It is necessary that you focus upon the body that is coming and distract yourself from the negative aspects of your current physical body, for as long as you are seeing your body as it is, you are contradicting the vibration of the idea of a slender body. You cannot create a new reality while
looking at your current reality. So now that you understand why it has been so difficult to find the inspiration to act and why the action, even when you did offer it, netted you very little results, let us show you some very simple things that you can do that will begin the process of aligning your Energies immediately, for by
understanding the Laws of the Universe, and by understanding the basis of your creation (which is the simple alignment of vibration), you will now be on your way to the outcome that you desire:
• Your choices, right now, do not include whether you are at your perfect body weight or not.
• You have no choice other than to be at the body weight you are at right now.
• You are going to weigh about the same thing tomorrow as you do today, and the next day, too . . .
and so on.
• Changing your body weight right now is not an option.
• Changing your vibrational alignment right now is an option—a powerful one. Also, you are not, right now, choosing between feeling fabulous or terrible.
• You are not choosing between feeling enthusiasm or discouragement.
• Your choices, right now, are more subtle and more fine-tuned than that.
• You are making the simple choice of feeling a little better or a little worse.
• You can choose an upstream thought or a betterfeeling, downstream thought.
• Those are your only choices: upstream or downstream.
• But those choices are enough.
For example, imagine you are at an outdoor shopping center.You are moving in and out of many beautiful shops, and there are hundreds of people moving in and out of them with you. These individuals vary in size and shape and wardrobe, but you are predominantly noticing nicely dressed, nicely shaped, beautiful people all around you; and as you see them, you feel self-conscious. You are now awkwardly aware of what you are wearing, and you are unhappy with the way you look today. You turn to see your reflection in the window as you are walking, and you are extremely unhappy about the way you look. You feel agitated, discouraged, and unhappy, and you are not having a good time on this shopping outing at all. You have now lost interest in the reason why you came to the mall. You do not feel like shopping anymore. In fact, the only thing that is appealing to you right now is the idea of getting something to eat. There are good-smelling things in the air, and you realize that you are hungry and that you do want a snack. There are several choices within view, and from the fragrances in the air, you know there are more choices nearby. Any one of several things sounds good to you: ice cream, candy, maybe something more substantial such as a sandwich. Actually, all of that sounds pretty good to you right now.Your urge to find a quiet place to sit while you eat something is becoming quite strong, and while you are trying to fight the urge to follow through on your impulse, it is much easier to just give in to it and get something to eat. As you are standing in line at the ice-cream counter, you notice the slender people waiting in line with you. They are annoying, and as you are annoyed, your urge for the ice cream grows stronger still. . . . Before we continue with the details of this example, and before we offer guidance to assist you in improving your situation, we want to explain something that most people do not understand and, in fact, have a hard time believing: Whether you gird up your willpower and walk out of the ice-cream parlor or whether you go ahead and select—and eat—a large tub of ice cream, there is absolutely no difference in the effect of one of those actions over the other! Even if we are talking about 1,000 days of walking out as compared to 1,000 days of eating a tub of ice cream, the action choice of one or the other makes no difference. It is not your action that matters; it is your vibration. It is not your
action that makes you fat; it is your vibration. It is not what you are doing that makes the difference; it is how you are feeling about what you are doing.
In the beginning of your vibrational alignment regarding your body weight, you may begin to feel enthusiasm for some changes in your diet, and many would say, “Well, then, I don’t see how this approach differs that much from just going on a diet as I’ve done so many times before.” But we would ask you to notice how much easier it is this time in the feeling of enthusiasm rather than the discouragement that you have been acting from before. You will also notice that in this state of improved emotion, you will find an appealing idea, and then another. You will begin to find a sort of rolling out of a continuous path of good-feeling new ideas. You will begin to feel carried along by those new ideas rather than struggling to find them, and, before long, you will begin to see physical results. Of course, upon seeing the physical results, your feeling of enthusiasm will be even greater, and then you are really off and running toward the outcome that you have been seeking. And as you achieve your desired body weight (and you will), you will say to yourself after the fact, This time it wasn’t difficult, and this time I’ll keep it off. And, in any case, I now know what to do, whenever I decide to, about achieving whatever physical bodily condition I choose.
Consider This:
If being slender matches the emotion of happiness . . .and you were to consistently eat ice cream while feeling happy . . .you would be a slender person who eats large quantities of ice cream. If your desire to be slender while you are currently not slender matches the emotion of discouragement . . . and you were to consistently eat ice cream while feeling discouraged . . . you would be a fat person who eats ice cream.
If your desire to be slender while you are currently not slender matches the emotion of discouragement . . . and you were to consistently use your willpower to keep yourself from eating ice cream . . . you would be a fat person who does not eat ice cream.
Some would ask, “Abraham, if being unhappy makes you fat, why are there no fat people in an environment where food is scarce? They are unhappy, and they are not fat. They are often starving to death.” And we would answer, if you are focused upon the current situation of food scarcity, and you feel fear for yourself and your loved ones, you are a match to what you do not want. It makes no difference if not wanting to be fat is the issue that turns your thoughts upstream or if the idea of
starving to death is the issue that turns your thoughts upstream: Your thoughts are still upstream— which is resistance to what you desire, whether your desire is slenderness or enough food for your family.
Being slender matches the emotion of happiness. (downstream)
Being fat matches the emotion of unhappiness. (upstream)
Having enough to eat matches the emotion of happiness. (downstream)
Not having enough to eat matches the emotion of un-happiness. (upstream)
The key to creating everything that you desire is to find a way to turn to the better-feeling, downstream thoughts, even when the current situation does not evoke it from you, and to use your willpower to focus your thoughts in the direction of your desire and who-you-really-are, rather than using your willpower to try to produce action against the Current.
So, in the beginning, your thoughts may be something like the following:
I am fat. (upstream)
I don’t want to be fat. (upstream)
I’m so tired of being overweight. (upstream)
I don’t like how I look. (upstream)
I don’t like my clothes. (upstream)
I don’t want to shop for clothes. (upstream)
I’ve tried so many things. (upstream)
Nothing works for me. (upstream)
Remember, you do not have to fix everything. Just try to find a thought that feels a little bit better:
I wish I could find a way. (downstream)
My feet would feel better for sure. (downstream)
Again, these are not earth-shattering statements, but they do feel better, and therefore they are downstream—so your work, for now, is done.
Whenever you find yourself beating the same old drum about your body weight, if you would make an effort to turn your thoughts downstream and stay focused upon the subject until you feel a slight turn, in a very short period of time you will improve the vibrational relationship between where you are and what you want, and you will be amazed at the leverage this improved vibration will give to your process. Everything about this will get easier and easier until, in time, your desired body weight will have been achieved.
So now, let us say that you are at work. You have not been focused on your body or your weight because you had things to accomplish and you’ve been busy at those things. But now it is lunchtime, and as you are walking past the vending machine, you feel an urge to buy a cookie. You put in your money, the cookie drops through the chute, and while you are unwrapping it, the feeling of discomfort comes over you.
“Here I go again,” you say, feeling the discomfort washing over you.But the urge is strong, and you take a big bite of the cookie. You feel worse still as a strong feeling of disappointment now rises within you. But this time things are slightly different from ever before because you have some positive momentum going from those statements you have been making about the subject of your weight.
You remember, It isn’t about what I’m doing. It’s about how I’m feeling while I’m doing it. So you pause and look at the cookie, and you make the following statements:
I shouldn’t be eating you. (upstream)
You’ll only make me fatter. (upstream)
You are delicious, though. (downstream)
And you’re not all that big. (downstream)
I could eat some of you now and save some for later. (downstream)
I like having choices. (downstream)
I like making deliberate choices. (downstream)
I like being in charge of my actions. (downstream)
If I had stopped to think, I may not have been so quick to put my money in this machine. (downstream)
I’m really making quite a big to-do over eating a little cookie. (downstream)
You’re a tasty little cookie. (downstream)
Well, I’m enjoying you, cookie. (downstream)
I’m deliberately enjoying you. (downstream)
And sometimes I’ll choose to eat you, and sometimes I’ll pass. (downstream)
Right now I’m going to eat you. (downstream)
And I’m going to enjoy you. (downstream)
You have just accomplished something that is rather unusual for you. You are eating a cookie, and you have talked yourself into alignment with yourself and therefore with your desire to be slender at the same time. You are in alignment with You, which is much more significant than anything you are doing—or not doing—with the cookie. And now, a very slender person walks up to the machine, pulls out a cookie, and begins to eat it. And as you watch, you can tell that this person is truly savoring this cookie. In the past as you watched a slender person eating a cookie, your thoughts would be:
It’s not fair. (upstream)
Her metabolism allows her to eat tasty things and still be slender. (upstream)
She’s probably unhealthy, and that’s the only thing she will eat today. (upstream)
But this time, because of the vibrational work you have been doing, you think instead:
Ah, there is evidence of someone who’s in alignment with her desire of eating a cookie. (downstream)
It is all about vibrational alignment. Do not look for immediate measurable physical results. Instead, look for improvement in your mood, your attitude, and your emotions. When you feel better, you are more in alignment—and everything else will follow. It is Law.
The astonishing power of emotion- Ester and Jerry Hicks

Rampage of Invincibility

Abraham: We're going to start where you are and build you into the vibrationthat is necessary for you to be or do or have anything that you want."I am beginning to understand that I am more than I see here in thisphysical body. I acknowledge that there is a larger part of me - a Source Energy part of me- that is truly the essence of who I am.And I accept that a part of that consciousness is now flowing in thisphysical body and so there is a sort of duality going on within me where Ihave this stable beginning and becoming and then there is the part of methat is focused here in this physical body and I understand with clarity thevalue of the two parts of that which I am.I can feel the Eternalness of who I really am and I can feel thespecifics of who I am in this human form on this Leading-Edge time/spaceplatform and I am beginning to feel appreciation for the contrast thatsurrounds me that once I condemned, now I embrace because I can feel thatthe contrast is inspiring yet another new idea from me.And I remember feeling a new idea being born within me and hating thebirthing of it, because it was an idea that I did not believe and,therefore, it brought me pain. But now I'm experiencing the thrill of givingbirth to ideas and even though I don't know how or when it will come about,I do have faith or belief in the Laws of the Universe and I am knowing thatI am a Creator who, having given birth to this idea, will be given all ofthe advantages of the resources of Source in order to accomplish it.So while I stand in this place of wanting something that I have no wayof figuring out how it's going to be, I am feeling soothed in the awarenessof it. No, more than soothed. I not only feel soothed about having givenbirth to an idea of something that I want, I'm feeling enlivened by itbecause the larger part of me knows unequivocally that I am the Creator ofmy own experience and that larger part of me is not only looking at it andagreeing with it, but has become the vibrational equivalent of it. In fact,the larger part of me has already become what I'm asking for and so now it'sonly a matter of the rest of me catching up with it. And now that I knowwhat I know, I don't think this is going to be too much trouble.When I move in the direction of catching up with it, I feel better. Andwhen I move in opposition of catching up with it, I feel worse. And I am sosensitive to the way that I am feeling these days. I am so proud of myselfbecause I'm aware of when I'm going with the Flow and when I'm not. I'maware of when I'm moving downstream and when I'm moving upstream. I can feelwhen I'm letting myself be who I have become and I can feel when I'm notletting myself be who I've become.And I'm no longer mad at myself in the moments that I'm not lettingmyself be who I've become because those moments only help me to know thedifference in the Guidance System . I can feel I'm actually molding theclay. I'm finally in the place where I don't need to be the manifestedreceiver of everything that I want all at once because I know that it's allcoming, that there will be a time that I will not be sending more rockets ofdesire into my future.I'm finally beginning to get it that I never get it done and I cannotget it wrong, because everything that I'm living is causing an expansion andI can tell by the way I feel whether I'm moving toward that expansion ornot.Finally, I'm beginning to understand that it was never about thefulfillment or the manifestation anyway. These things that I want are onlymy target to focus upon so that I can ride this River of Life. I amfulfilled in the knowing that I am expanding and I'm thrilled in theknowledge that I will never get it done. And I am satisfied - deeplysatisfied - with where I am. I'm thrilled in knowing that I am where I amand that I'm putting the boat in the water wherever I am and my knowledgethat the Stream is flowing downstream - ever flowing - toward all that Ihave become is enough for me to feel satisfaction in where I am. No morewill I nitpick as I measure the distance between where I am and where I wantto be. Instead, I flow on this joyous River and I experience theexhilarating feeling of motion toward my expansion.I can feel that the Source within me loves me and adores me and hasbecome the expanded version and I can feel that there's no remorse ordiscomfort whatsoever in the Being of my Source. My Source not for a momentlooks at me where I stand and compares where I am to where it is and mocksme in the not achievement. Instead, the Source within me that is expanded asa result of what I have lived stands in loving appreciation of all that Ihave become and calls me never endedly toward it.And now I get it that that's what life is. That the duality of me, thatthe Source Energy that was willing to come forth that expanded out furtherand now the physical part of me that's willing to catch up, I now get myplace in this Universe. I'm important to the expansion of the Universe andit's time for me to receive the benefit of my expansion and now I know how.[Shouts, loud applause.]
Abe 06/23/07 Portland

My Lover Left Me

My boyfriend, whom I‘ve been living with for the last two years, moved out. We didn‘t agree oneverything, and we did fight about some things, but nothing very serious. I thought that we were doing OK. And I can‘t believe that he doesn‘t want us to be together anymore. He swears that he is
not gonna be with someone else. But how can you supposedly love someone, and then just all of a sudden move out, for no reason?“
Most people who want a relationship believe that a mediocre relationship is better than no relationship at all. But we do not agree with that. In other words, since the potential for a glorious relationship always exists, we never encourage settling for less.
Remember, that you feel the way you do because of the mix of vibrations within you, and that no two people feel exactly the same way about anything. It‘s possible for two people to be sharing what appears to be an identical experience, but one person is enjoying it while the other is not,
because their individual mixture of vibrations vary. Rather than trying to figure out what the other person wants and then putting your efforts towards satisfying his or her desires, it‘s much more productive and satisfying for you to be directing your thoughts toward the things that you desire.
Whatever you‘re living is causing you to make regular deposits into your vibrational escrow account. So, anytime something happens that you do not want, you send out a request for what you prefer instead. So, for example, now that your lover has left your experience, your request for someone who wants to be with you has been submitted in a stronger clearer way than ever before.
Many of your experiences throughout this lifetime have caused you to make request. And so you‘ve created a magnificent relationship that waits for you in vibrational escrow and calls you toward the fulfillment of it. And as you find more downstream thoughts, you get closer to the realization of
these desires. But today while your heart is breaking, you‘re going against the current, and you‘re not allowing yourself to get closer to the relationship that waits for you.
People are often amazed when we tell them that every bad thing that‘s ever happened to them in a relationship is part of the reason why such a magnificent relationship now waits for them. However,if they continue to beat the drum of those bad things that have happened, they‘ll continue to deprive themselves of the discovery of that wonderful creation. Some might argue that even though it seems that someone abruptly made a decision and left, there had to be signs of your relationship breaking down you were missing, and that if you had been more tuned in to your boyfriend, you might have been able to turn this around, if you had caught the trouble at an earlier stage. But we are quite pleased that you did not see this coming, because that means you were not looking for trouble, and we can also tell that you were predominantly focused upon the positive aspects of your relationship.
„So, if I was predominantly thinking positive thoughts, then why did he leave?“ Well, this is something we really want you to come to understand. When you are predominantly feeling good, all things are aligning for your ultimate satisfaction. In other words, your life with its ups and downs
has caused you to create a vibrational escrow of a wonderful future life experience, and you‘re being called toward it. So, whenever you‘re feeling good, that wonderful future is in the process ofmaking its way to you, and you to it. Simply put, anyone who moves out of your experience for any
reason, was not a match to the wonderful future that‘s waiting for you in vibrational escrow.
Here is something else that you might find fascinating. Let‘s say that you‘re watching your boyfriend closely, and you desire to please him in every way possible. And you had begun to notice that he was beginning to be unhappy and no longer completely satisfied in your relationship. And
then, in your awareness of his unhappiness you began to feel worried and so you tried harder and harder to make him happy. The most important thing that we want you to understand is that in your focus, which caused your unhappiness, you‘re no longer a match to your own desires. So now
you‘re moving upstream, not downstream. You‘re a match to his unhappiness, not to your true desires. And in that situation you would probably hold him in your experience longer. In other words, in focusing upon your boyfriend‘s unhappiness, and in your efforts to modify conditions to
bring him to a happier place, you‘re actually becoming more out of alignment with who you really are and what you realy want. You soothed him, and so he stays longer, and many think that is success. But from the bigger picture what has happened is that you have worked to please him
instead of yourself, and under those conditions, in time, you would be the one who would be wanting to leave.
By being unaware of his discomfort, and by continuing to focus upon positive aspects in your relationship, you remain true to your real vision of the relationship. And since he is not matching that true vision, he is leaving. And friend, we promise you, that is not a bad thing. When you
consistantly feel good, even when people are freaking out around you, and even leaving you, what you really want must find you. It will be more difficult now, but in the same way you did not let his increasing unhappiness effect you, if you can now not allow his leaving to upset you, then the realtionship that you‘ve been crafting all along will come to you. And then your work will be the same again – to look for positive aspects.
Do not get drawn into anyone‘s drama. Do not stand on your head to please others in a distorted way of soothing their misalignment. It‘s better to let those things that are not a match leave your experience.
This pain you‘re feeling is multifaceted, as it touches on so many things that matter to you. Not only do you feel unloved when what you want is love, but you feel insecure when what you want is security. You feel abandoned while what you want is to be adored. And while we understand that so soon after your lover has left you, is not easy to find good -feeling thoughts, still that must be your dominant intention. The LOA is matching you up with circumstances, events and other people who match your vibration. And so, if you will deliberately choose your vibration, especially one that matches your own specifically created vibrational escrow, someone you would consider to be a perfect mate must come to you. Conversely, if you do not line up with the lover you really want,
you will attract the lover that matches how you feel. And if you feel abandoned, you can only attract another who will behave in the same way.
With far less time and effort than you think, you can come into alignment with your idea of a perfect relationship, and there will be a time, not so far from now, when you will look back on this lover who just left you, with great appreciation for the serious contribution he helped you make
toward the creation of your perfect mate. You may want to write him a letter that says, „Thank you for breaking my heart, and in the process helping me to clarify what I really want. Thank you for the painful experience of giving birth to such powerful rockets of desire, that when I turned in the direction of that desire, I was swiftly transported into this blissful relationship. It is my desire that your interaction with me has provided you with the same wonderful benefit.“
Many people work very hard to try to make things work out. But we want you to understand that when you work to bring yourself into alignment with you, rather than into alignment with what someone else wants you to be, then the Universe will bring you the match. Just work to maintain your alignment, and the Universe will deliver to you partners who are aligned. It is Law.
So, start where you are and reach for increasingly better feeling thoughts.
For example,I am in a state of shock and depression. I don‘t know what to do.
I can‘t believe this has happened. I thought he was the one.
Why would he leave me on like that? Why would he pretend that he wanted to be with me forever?
Now, see if you can move from your feeling of powerlessness. Reach for something that makes you at least feel like getting out of bed. For instance,This is the last time something like this will happen to me.
I don‘t deserve to be treated like this.
I am glad that he left because clearly he is not what I thought he was.
Negative as these thoughts are, they are giving you a feeling of relief. Keep going.
Clearly we aren‘t right for each other.
There is no point in wasting more time figuring that out.
This was an extremely clarifying situation for me.
I‘ve learned so much in such a short period of time.
Thinking back, I can sort of feel this coming. At the time I didn‘t want to see it, but now I realize it had been coming. I am not sorry that this has happened.
Nothing terrible has really happened here.
It‘s not a bad thing to find out that what I really want is somewhere else.
This relationship has helped to more clearly define who I am and what I‘m lookng for.
I feel newly energized regarding relationships.
I am gonna take my time as I move forward. There is no urgency about figuring this out.
I am actually happy to have some breathing space.
In a strange way I‘m looking forward to what comes next. I know that what will come next
will be better because of this relationship.
Some day I may thank him for helping me to get clear about what I do want. However, that day is not today. Well, maybe it is.. a little.

You have to admit, you do feel better. And that is your only work. If you will continue to feel good, everything that you desire must come.