Living abundantly is not magic

As we explain from our perspective the abundant nature of your Universe, and the potential for
abundance that’s always available to you, we understand that our knowledge does not become your knowledge only because you hear us say it. If you asked you to trust what we say or just try to understand, you cannot just adopt our understanding as your own, for it’s only your own life experience that brings knowledge to you. The beliefs that you hold as a result of your own life experience are very strong. And we understand that you cannot release them immediately and replace them with others, even though we know that there are many more productive beliefs that you could foster. But there is something that you can begin today that will make a profound difference in the way your life unfolds, that does not require an immediate releasing of the beliefs that you currently hold – start telling a more positive better-feeling story about your life, and about the things that are important to you. Do not write your story like a factual document, weighing all the pros and cons of your experience. But instead tell the uplifting fanciful magical story of the wonder of your own life. And watch what happens. It will feel like magic as your life begins to transform right before your eyes. But it’s not by magic. It’s by the power of the Laws of the Universe and your deliberate alignment with those Laws.

Neither money nor poverty makes joy

Jerry: Abraham, there‘s a saying that money doesn‘t make for a happiness. But on the other hand, I have noticed that poverty doesn’t make for a happiness either. But still it’s obvious that money isn’t the path to a happiness. So, if the idea of achieving something does bring us happiness, does that mean that the achievement is an appropriate goal for us to set? And how does a person maintain his or her feeling of happiness when reaching one’s goal is taking a lot of their time and energy? In other words, it often seems that it’s a sort of uphill climb to reach the goal, and then there is a short plateau of rest, but then an almost immediate tedious climb to achieve the next goal. In other words, how does a person keep all of the climbing toward their goals joyous, so there is not that struggle, struggle, struggle, and then, “Wow, I’ve made it!”, and then struggle, struggle, struggle, and, “Oh, here, I’ve made it again!”?
Abraham: You‘re right, money is not the path to happiness, and, as you‘ve observed, poverty
certainly is not the path to happiness either. It‘s so important to remember, that when you offer any action for the purpose of achieving happiness, you’re truly going about it in a backward way.
Instead, use your ability to focus your thoughts and words toward things that cause you to feel
better and better, and once you’ve deliberately achieved a state of happiness, not only will
wonderful actions be inspired, but wonderful results must follow.
Most people give the majority of their attention to whatever is happening in their experience right now, which means, if the results please them, they feel good, but if the results do not please them, they feel bad. But that’s really going about life the hard way. If you only have the ability to see what-is, then things cannot improve. You must find a way to look optimistically forward in order to achieve any improvement in your experience.
When you learn how to deliberately focus your thoughts toward good-feeling things, it’s not
difficult to find happiness and maintain it even before your goal has been accomplished. The feeling of struggle you were describing happens because of the continual comparison of where you are right now in relationship to the goal you’re reaching for. When you’re constantly taking score, noticing the distance that still needs to be traveled, you amplify the distance, the task, the effort, and that’s why it feels like such an uphill struggle.
When you care about how you feel, and so you choose thoughts on the basis of how they feel, you
then develop patterns of thought that are more forward looking. And as the LOA then responds to those better-feeling thoughts, you get more pleasing results. Struggle, struggle, struggle never leads to a happy ending. It defies Law. “When I get there then I’ll be happy” is not a productive mindset, because unless you’re happy, you can’t get there. When you decide to first be happy, then you’ll get there.

First I‘ll find vibrational balance

The things that you have and the things that you do are all meant to enhance your state of being. In other words, it‘s all about how you feel, and how you feel is all about coming into alignment with who-you-really-are. When you tend to your alignment first, then the things you gather and the actions you perform only enhance your good feeling state of being. But if you do not find that
vibrational balance first, and attempt to make yourself feel better by bringing more things into your experience, or participating in more activities, in order to try to make yourself feel better, you just get further out of balance.
We’re not guiding you away from accumulating things or from taking action, because all of that is
an essential part of your physical experience. In other words, you intended the wonderful
experience of exploring the details of your physical world in order to help you personally determine your own joyous growth and expansion. But when you try to move forward form an imbalanced footing, it’s always uncomfortable.
If you’ll begin by identifying how you want to feel, or be, and then let your inspiration to
accumulate or do come from that centered place, then not only will you maintain your balance, but you will now enjoy the things that you gather and the things that you do.
Most people do most of their wanting from a place of lack. They want things in many cases simply because they do not have them. So the having of them does not really satisfy anything deep withinthem because there’s always something else that they do not have. And so it becomes a neverending struggle to try to bring one more thing, one more thing that still will not be satisfying, into their experience. “Because I don’t have this, I want it.” And then they really think that getting it will fill the void. But that defies Law.
Any action that’s taken from a place of lack is always counterproductive, and it always leads to
more of a feeling of lack.
The void that these people are feeling cannot be filled with things or satisfied with action, becausethe feeling of void is about the vibrational discord between their desires and their chronic habits of thought. Offering better feeling thoughts, telling a different story, looking for positive aspects, pivoting to the subject of what you really do want, looking for positive what-ifs – that’s how you fill that void. And when you do, a most interesting thing will occur in your experience – the things you’ve wanted will begin to flood into your experience. But these things that you’ve been wanting will flood into your experience not to fill your void, because that void no longer exists, they flow in because your void no longer exists. Certainly, you will gather many magnificent things into your experience. Our message is not for you to stop wanting, having or doing. Our message is for you to want and accumulate and do from your place of feeling good.

Attracting money and manifesting abundance

While money is not absolutely essential to your experience, to most people money and freedom are
synonymous. And since an intense awareness of your right to be free is at the very core of that which you are, it then follows that your relationship with money is one of the most important subjects of your life experience. And so, it’s no wonder you have such strong feelings about the subject of money. Although some people have discovered the freedom of allowing large amounts of money to flow through their experience, it’s more often the case that because you’re experiencing far less money than you need or desire, most of you are not feeling free. It is our intention here to clearly explain why this financial disparity exists, so that you can begin to allow the abundance that you want and deserve into your experience. As you read these words, and as you begin to resonate with these Law based truths, you will align your desire with the abundance of your world and then the evidence of your new found alignment will soon become apparent to you and others who observe you. Whether you’re one who’s been working to achieve financial abundance for many years or you’re a youngster just starting down that path, the journey to financial Well-Being does
not have to be a long one from where you are. And it does not require large amounts of time or physical effort, for we’re going to explain to you in simple and easy to understand terms how to utilize the leverage of Energy that’s available to you. We want to show you the absolute correlation between the thoughts you’ve been thinking about money, the way you feel when you think those thoughts and the money that flows into your experience. When you’re able to consciously make that correlation, and you decide to deliberately direct your thoughts accordingly, you’ll access the power of the Universe and you’ll then see how time and physical effort are rather irrelevant to your financial success.
So, we’ll begin with the simple premise of your Universe and of your world – YOU GET WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT. Often people say to us, “That can’t be true, because I’ve wanted and thought about money for as long as I can remember, but I continue to struggle and not have enough money”. And what we tell them then is the most important thing for you to understand if you want to improve your financial situation - the subject of money is really two subjects: money, plenty of money, the feeling of freedom and ease that plenty of money can provide, and absence of money, not nearly enough money, the feeling of fear or disappointment that the thought of absence of money induces. Often people assume that because they’re speaking the words “I want moremoney”, they’re speaking positively about money. But when you’re speaking of money, oranything, and you’re feeling fear or discomfort as you speak, you’re not speaking about the subject of money, but instead you’re speaking about the subject of not enough money. And the difference is very important because the first statement brings money, and the second holds it away.
It is of value for you to become aware of how you are really thinking, and, more important, how you’re feeling about money. If you’re thinking or saying things like, “Oh, that’s a very beautifulthing, but I can’t afford it”, you’re not in the vibrational place to allow the abundance in that you desire. The feeling of disappointment that is present as you acknowledge that you cannot afford it is your indicator that the balance of your thought is pointed more toward the lack of your desire than toward the desire itself. The negative emotion that you feel as you acknowledge that you cannot afford something that you want is one way of understanding the balance of your thoughts, and the amount of abundance that you’re actually experiencing is another way of knowing it.
Many people continue to perpetuate the experience of not enough in their lives simply because they don’t think beyond the reality of what they’re actually experiencing. In other words, if they’re experiencing the shortage of money, and are aware of it and speak of it often, they hold themselves in that chronic position. And so, many people protest when we explain to them the power of telling the story of their finances as they want it to be rather than as it is, because they believe that they should be factual about what’s happening. But we want you to understand that if you continue to look at what-is and speak of what-is, you will not find the improvement that you desire. You may see a parade of changing faces and places, but your life experience will essentially show no improvement.
If you want to effect substantial change in your life experience, you have to offer substantially different vibrations, which means you must think thoughts that feel different as you think them.

EVOKING THE PERFECT MATE

The perfect mate is one that makes you feel good. To be the perfect mate, you make your partner feel good. You do this by looking for the positive aspects in each other. You think you want to be loved, but what you want is the feeling of love coming out of you. When the other evokes that from you, that is why you feel loved.
You are wanting to interact with someone because you are wanting the feeling of love to be evoked from you, and you are wanting a subject, or a target upon which to direct your love. You are wanting the gloriousdeliciousness of the physical experience. You are wanting someone who is a friend, someone to respond, someone who seeks adventure, someone who wants to laugh at the things you are wanting to laugh at. You have launched long before today a very powerful creation. Keep your eyes open for it, and stop being so guarded about it. Exaggerate, add emphasis, talk to yourself everyday about what you are wanting. As you get up in the morning and beat on your chest, say to yourself "Today I am going to see evidence of the coming of my perfect mate. Today I am going to look under every rock, around every corner, I am going to keep my eyes open for that perfect mate. Today I am going to find, or at least get closer to that perfect mate.
"Then you have awakened your guidance system! You have stated what you want. Your guidance system is aware. You walk into a room full of people, you feel yourself inspired to go and talk to that one, and you say "Not that one, that one doesn't look the way I want."
And now you are right back into the arena of lack. That one may lead you to one who will lead you to one who will lead you to one who will lead you to one. You cannot see the path that is before you. If you will follow the positive emotion, you will very swiftly be drawn to them. You see, that other one is out there looking for you! He is saying where is she, and you are saying where is he, and we are saying we will not play cupid. Law of attraction does a very good job of that. As reach of you focuses on what you are wanting, the connection must be.
Mating is the same as co-creating. Co-creating is the same as soul creating. Identify what you want, pay attention to what you feel, and you will be guided to that which you seek. Look for the positive aspects in every one you see. As you see in another a quality that you don't want, and you say "Not that one, not that one." You are closing a door that is keeping all from coming because a critical attitude about them is keeping all of them away from you. As you begin to say "Positive aspect there, positive aspect there" you attract to you the one that has all of those positive aspects. In your pickiness, be a selective sifter, look for what you are wanting, don't guard yourself against what you are not wanting. Never make the statement "I don't want that one, I don't like that one." Make statements such as "Ooh, that is a nice one, ooh, I like the attitude there, that one is very beautiful." As you focus on positive aspects of others, even if they are already connected to another, look for the positive aspects, and by doing that you attract
that into your experience. Your mate is very near you. We are talking in terms of time. Be expectant.

Babies

CD 02/17/08 - San Fransisco, CD 2, Track 2

Guest: Now, I've been thinking about this and I'm kind of curious -
when do children and infants or fetus - when do they begin thinking?

Abe: You've sort of picked up right where we were before segment of
refreshment when we were talking about vibration and you're also
picking up on the discussion we had yesterday about how vibration and
thought are the same thing. When a vibration is vibrating you could
say it is thinking - you think a thought and then the thought thinks
and so at many levels of their being they are vibrating so you must
call them a thinking being. But we know what you're talking about.
When does this being that is becoming, that is forming in the mother's
womb that will be birthed into the physical experience - at what point
does its consciousness as you know it to be come forth, and we say not
easy to answer because there are variables and not easy to answer
because every part of them is already vibrating and thinking but
usually consciousness in the way you mean it enters upon first breath.
The reason that this debate over all of this is so volatile is because
(and even as we've been talking here in this gathering today) you
recognize that YOU ARE before you come into this body and we promise
you are thinking from that vantage point. You see the Source within
you does not need a physical vessel in order to perceive this time-
space reality. So Source is thinking about all of this but does not
necessarily need this particular vortex to flow through.

Guest: So in the womb, let's go into the womb, the baby, fetus,
whatever - is receiving the vibrations from the thoughts of the people
around them, like the parents?

Abe: Certainly acclimating - and can begin on a cellular level to
resonate with the vibration of what's going on around but you gotta
know the Source within you is the dominant vibration in all of that.
That's why we say when you were born into this physical body you were
in that place of pure positive energy. That's the perspective you hold
coming in.

Abe perspective on envy, jealousy, coveting

My question is kind of a couple of questions in one, but basically it has to do with feeling jealous and insecure in my relationship. And, uh, my boyfriend really doesn't give me a reason to feel this, but sometimes we may be somewhere or he may say something and I'll just start feeling that way. And I've noticed he is real different in that he knows that I love him and because of this he feels totally secure and trusting of me and this is what I would like to feel. Also I've been with him for about a year and even though he is allowing this less and less, his ex-girlfriend, who's the mother of his 2 children, still feels that she can exert control over his life and uses the children as a tool do do this. This has caused some problems and interference in our relationship even though lately he's done a lot not to allow her to have so much influence. Nonetheless the control or influence he has allowed her to have has really bothered me and I know that the more that I observe it the more I'll attract of it. How do I change letting it have any affect over me so that it'll just diminish? Sometimes to try to change the energy I pretend that she has a boyfriend now and just leaves my boyfriend alone and also that because of this he doesn't feel so obligated or so free to come and go at her house. And when I do this, it feels really good to me and it feels like a relief. Is it okay for me to try to change the energy in that way, or how should I do it so that it doesn't bother me so much and I don't keep attracting more of it? It's getting better, it is changing, but I don't want it to bother me at all anymore in that particular situation and just the
feeling insecure and jealous in other areas involving us.
Also, I've noticed that sometimes I've noticed that I don't do exactly what he wants or I'm not there for him exactly in the way he wants me to be and sometimes he'll do something to get back at me because of this. I guess due go do an errand for her and he'll purposely tell me "well, I'm going to go do this for her" or he'll go over to her house to babysit the kids or something like that which I can feel that he's doing it to get back at me and he knows that's what's going to hurt me the most or make me feel the worst. And I'm wondering, what is it that I'm vibrating that is causing him to feel that he needs to get back at me if I'm displeasing him in some way? Also, I'm
wondering when somebody does something like that to us, is it okay to take action in that moment and kind of like tell them you know "don't do this to me" kind of like stop them at that moment from doing something like that? Or do I first try to change the vibration and then say something to them?
Because sometimes to me it feels like that if I don't say something then I'm just letting him or somebody else walk all over me and I feel like it's going to take awhile to change the vibration, and meanwhile they're just going to keep doing that. I'm confused on how to handle it.
**Well, we want to begin with the last part of your question first. If you lived in an action-based world where things were coming to you in response to action, and somebody is getting even by doing something, then the answer would be yes, stop the action as soon as you can so that it doesn't go any further. But you are not living, even though it feels sometimes to you, you are not
living in an action-based world, this is an energy-based world. And the answer is always to line up your energy before you take any action. Because if you have a knee-jerk response to something and then you act from that feeling, you're just filling your future with more of the same. You have to shift the energy and then take the inspired action. As you were describing your relationship and some of the things that you are living, we wanted to interrupt you midway through and say to you that this...and you used the word towards the end of the sentence that was the word that we were going to give to. You began by using the word jealousy and then later you began talking about insecurity and we're wanting you very much to realize that what jealousy is, is insecurity. But when it turns to that feeling of jealousy is when you think you see someone that is living that which you want in the moment that you are not living it. For example, let's say that you have all the money that you have any sensible use for, you have
piles of it around, in other words, you can't even figure out what to do with all of your money. And the money keeps making more money so lack of money is just not part of your vibration at all. So you meet somebody else that is in the same situation, they have more money than they know what to do with, and so as you are visiting with them, you would not feel any jealousy about them living something that you want because you're living all of it. If you are radiant in your health and you meet another healthy person, you would not feel jealous about their health because you are abundant in health. So what the feeling of jealousy is, is when you have a desire that has not yet been acquired, but then you see someone else that is living the satisfaction of
your desire, then that feeling of jealousy is just your amplified awareness that in this moment you don't have what you want. And in truth, it really doesn't have anything to do with anybody else except that they amplified your own feeling of not enoughness. And that's why the word insecurity is even a better match. In other words, it really doesn't have anything to do with his
past relationships, they just keep fanning the flames of your feeling of insecurity. In other words, when you think about it logically, you know he has no desire to go there and in your heart you know he will not return there, but there is enough feeling of not enoughness within yourself that sometimes you use that as your excuse to not feel all that you are.
What we would do, let's walk through this a little bit. Let's say that for whatever, you don't even know why, but this feeling of jealous insecurity sort of sneaked up on you and you're feeling it in this moment and you're fighting it, but you feel it, it's very real, you're not making it up--you feel it. But you stop in the middle of it this time and you say "well, I used to call it jealousy or I used to call it insecurity, and now what I'm calling it is -- what it feels like when I give my attention to something not up to speed with my desire. In other words, my desire is to know that I'm enough, my desire is to feel utterly secure in this relationship, but for some reason, and there's
so much evidence of that around me. In other words, he comes to me everyday, he comes to me every night, he expresses his appreciation and love for me in endless ways, but for some screwy reason I'm choosing with all of this evidence of what I want before me, to pick through the data and find something that feels different than my desire. And so the way I feel is not a product
of what he's doing, it's a product of what I'm doing, it's a product of what I'm choosing.
And it isn't just in this relationship. In other words, it's a habit that most physical beings have because you have not been taught that the way you feel is only an extension of what you're choosing to give your attention to. In other words, if you turn on the tv and there's some national report, even bigger, it's a global report, it's coming from the scientists of all around the world and they say to you there's an epidemic and all are susceptible to it and people are dying like flies everywhere and we don't know what to do about it. Most of you would feel vulnerable because you have not yet convinced yourself that that epidemic is about them, not me. There's still
this feeling that something that they might be living could assert itself in my experience. And it is only when you finally get it, that only that which I am in vibrational harmony to has access to my experience that you're feeling of insecurity is replaced with an absolute KNOWING that all is well with me. So, you just practice it little by little. You practice it one thought at a time and the best tool that we have found to teach that helps you to in the midst of a negative vibration... our friend amplified this question earlier "when I'm right in the middle of something that I don't want, how do I find the other feeling?" And the process we call a Focus Wheel and the simple
structure of it is - you draw a circle in the middle of a page and then you write clumps of phrases all the way around your circle in the middle of the page and when you're done you write a final, confirming statement in the center of the circle. Now you're attitude when you are performing this focus wheel, your goal, your objective, is to find some statement that matches your
desire _that you already believe_. In other words, let's say that you feel insecure, he's been off babysitting, he's been over there, you've focused upon it, you've been keeping score, he's been over there a lot lately. He might be trying to get to me or he might have some real desire, he might be getting some satisfaction over there when I want him to get all of his satisfaction with me. In other words, I don't want him to have a broad life, I want him to have a narrow life where I'm the only that ever makes him happy [laughter]. I don't want anyone to tell him a joke
that makes him laugh, I don't want anyone to prepare food for him that he likes, I want all food that he eats away from here to taste icky, and I want all conversations that he has away from here to be boring, I don't want him ever to have joyful moment unless he's with me [laughter]. Now that's absurd isn't it, and yet that's what most think they want when they're feeling a
little insecure in a relationship. So let's pretend he's been over there and you're in that place of insecurity or jealousy. So you say, "well I'll do a focus wheel". The first thing that you reach for...and your desire...whenever you know what you don't want you always know more clearly what you do want...so the desire that is borne out of this is "I want to feel good, I want to feel secure, not just in this relationship, but in all aspects of my life. I want to know that I'm enough,
I want to feel pleased with who I am and how life is treating me." So then you feel for something that you already believe that matches that desire. Now have you ever seen one of these merry go rounds in a grade school playground, where the children push them to make them go? And do you ever remember or did you ever watch when they got it going so fast that somebody who wanted on couldn't get on and they had to finally slow it down enough that you could jump on? Well, that's a bit the way this focus wheel works. If you try to make a statement that is moving faster than you, you can't get on. For example, your desire here is to feel better about who you are, so you make a statement like "Well, I'm enough"...well the wheel didn't slow down enough for you to get on, so you try again. So you say something like "Well, I'm more significant in his life than she is"...well, if this were a game show we'd go "annhhh" because that's the wrong answer again [laughter], you can feel that wasn't the right approach either. So you just keep reaching for it. So then you say something like "There is so much evidence that he loves me."
Now you absolutely believe that so now you're on. So then you reach for another statement and you say something like, "I want him to interact with his children" you absolutely believe that and it also matches, or doesn't mismatch your desire, so that statement stays. And then you reach for another and if you're writing this it's even more powerful, so as you're writing this in clumps "there is so much evidence that he loves me" and that feels good as you write it. It usually takes about 17 seconds to conceive it and write. And then you say "I want him to spend time with his children, I think that is very important to him and to them" and you write that and you feel yourself already feeling a little better, your vibration is already beginning to lift. And then you say something like "I have never wanted to be the beginning and ending of all things for him. I just want to be important to him and I know that I am". So you write that. And then you write "I want him to have a relationship with his ex-wife" ANNNHHH! You can feel that went too far
[laughter].
In other words, you can feel that you treaded into territory that brought your vibration down, so you back away from that. And then you say something like "it is natural that he would interact with her since they are both now and will always be the parents of these children" and you write that and it feels a little better. And then you reach for another statement and you say something like "I want these kids to have parents that get along with each other, it is so much nicer for them. There is no reason for their parents not to be social and receptive and respectful and appreciative of each other. I want that for the children and for him and even for her." And you can tell by the way you feel that you are now making statements that are a match to who you really are from your nonphysical perspective and you are literally bridging, you are shifting your vibrational habit into new realms. And the most powerful thing about a focus wheel is that it will take you a little while to get on it usually, but once you get on it, and shift your vibration, even a little bit, you _will never again go back to where you were before you did the focus wheel_. You are now seen by All That Is as a different beamer of a different vibration. And from that moment, everything in the universe will respond to you differently than it did before, so now
things that have made you feel insecure are less likely to happen, because you're not vibrating in so much insecurity! You've mended your insecurity and brought it to a more secure feeling place. You get the sense of what we're talking about? The first time you do it you will shift, the second time you do it you will shift more until with just a handful of focus wheels that are prompted from very strong desire, desire like we felt from you as you projected your question to us here, you will be vibrating in a whole different place. And everything in all the universe will respond to you from your newfound vibration. And it will not take much of that before that feeling of insecurity is an utter thing of the past.
We remember a time when Esther was insecure about going to new cities or when she was insecure about even flying from place to place. She would fret over all of the details of the unfolding, where now she has just come to accept that things always work out alright and she doesn't have to think every single thing through, they can figure it out as they go along. She knows that the signs are there and that they will find their way. But this morning when
Jerry left the (hotel) door ajar, for just a moment she slipped back into that old feeling of insecurity until she re-thought it from that vantage point. You get a sense... And so, you may do a 100 focus wheels on this subject, and each one leaving you in a new place. Get a sense of this? Usually it doesn't take nearly that much attention, however. 68 seconds of pure thought is equivalent to over 2 million action hours. So a focus wheel or 2 can make a big difference in the
way people in your experience respond to you. Now relative to your boyfriend manipulating you. He may be doing some of that, we don't feel too much of it. What we really feel is that your
insecurity just brings that out in him. And it annoys him when it comes. And we think that as you feel a little better you'll see little or none of that. And we would NEVER, if someone mistreated us, we would never stop in our moment of perceived mistreatment and say "you are mistreating me, don't do that" because then you are then shining a spotlight on something that you do not want and usually what happens is, they then get defensive about it. And then you have a whole other thing going [agreement in background]. So it is always much better to step back from it and give the other the benefit of the doubt. And by that we mean, say something like "well, he means well" or "I may be misunderstanding this". Even if he doesn't mean well, and even if you're not misunderstanding it, it's ALWAYS better for you to give them the benefit of the doubt, than to judge them as wrong, because in the moment you see them as wrong and focus upon it, you're a vibrational match to that very wrongdoing. And we promise you, you'll get more and more and more and more and more of that.**
Okay. And Abraham, when you say it annoys him, do you mean the insecurity annoys him or his doing what he does...
**Both, but what we meant was when you are feeling not loved enough and he knows that, he can't stand on his head in enough ways to make you feel secure...your insecurity is so deep... In other words, in his mind he's thinking things like "I do this, I do this, I do this, I do this and _still_ she's insecure". It feels futile to him. And in that feeling of futility, he just goes the other way. Not because he's trying to get even with you, but because you have amplified something that is so BIG that then you just get more of it. In other words, he can't buck your current, that's the best way of saying it. He can't buck your feeling of insecurity and so he just sort of goes with it. Have you ever heard them say "well, if you can't fight em, join em"? "I give up!" In other words, it's that sort of thing happening on an unconscious level. We do not think that he deliberately tries to ring your bells. You are complete?**
Yes, thank you very much.