Putting teens in a position light question...

ABRAHAM: It's not your job to make someone else vibrate. It's only your job to vibrate.
QUESTION: Does that also apply to parents raising rebellious teenagers--where they haven't had their own full life and maturity?
ABRAHAM: Oh, even more so. [laughter from the audience]
QUESTION: How should parents deal with guiding their children and their children's free will?
ABRAHAM: Yes, big topic isn't it? We'll give you the big picture here, and then we'll leave you to work out the details--which is the way it has always been. That's the joy of life. Here's the big picture. Here are these energies coming forth--these new beings coming into these bodies--these old beings coming into these new bodies with new fresh eagerness to experience. And here's the generation before them and one the before that and the one before that who have been banging around, who now greet this new clump of spirits saying, "Oh boy, if you knew what we KNOW." And they're saying, "Oh, no, we've come forth to remind you of what you've forgotten." And they're saying (the adults), "Oh if you only knew what we know. We need to tell you the paths we've been down so that we can prepare you for that path." And they say, "No, we have a different path. We have a different path. Our path is different." And they (the adults) say, "No, your path is the same is ours, and it has been hard in this way and this way."
What we are getting at here is that the generation gap will always be because it is divine. You come forth with a fresh eagerness and invincibility and a desire to examine the contrast without the biases that have been bogging everyone else down. Feel what it feels like to be born into this perfect environment with all of this to choose from and then have someone say, "Don't choose that. Don't choose that. That's a bad thing. That's a bad thing." What they are wanting to say to you is, "I have a
guidance system within me, and it isn't possible for me to choose wrong because if you will leave me alone, my intuition will let me know this feels better than this, and this feels better than this."
So as a parent who is understanding the law of attraction and the guidance system that is born within your children, what you are wanting to do--you have one goal and one goal only, and that is to be a catalyst, to assist them in connecting to their source. So much parenting happens from the place of seeing the child where you don't want them to be or where they may not want to be--and then as you see them there, losing your connection from source and then trying to guide them from your disconnected place. Every law, every rule in your universe whether it is secular or sacred comes from that place of disconnection. You have never made a good law, because every one of them has come from a guarded place of being more aware of what you do not want. What you are wanting to do is to understand that they have guidance within them--that if they are in tune with it, it will always serve them. Let your children know that you trust them. In other words, you are wanting to serve as an empowerer. The way to know how you are doing is to ask yourself, "Which feels better--that' s how your guidance system let's you know how well you're doing at fulfilling your intentions. So, which feels better? Your child is a teenager going off with a group of teenagers and you don't know who they are or what they've been doing on the Internet or what they have been thinking about. You don't know. So off they go. Which
feels better? To assume the worst or to assume the best? Which feels better? To be suspicious and to think they are sneaking around doing things they are not admitting to you, or to acknowledge that they have guidance within them and they know their own limits and that they are testing their own boundaries and they are discovering about themselves? Which feels better? To fear for them so that you lock them up and contain them and keep them from having experiences which might lead them astray, or to let them have experiences, trusting that is the only way they are going to get their sea legs, and that they cannot truly learn about life if they are not allowed to live life? Which feels better? To assume they have no guidance system whatsoever because they are too stupid--and so you need to make rules and then enforce them--or to understand they've got guidance within them that is with them every single moment and that if they had been encouraged by you to trust how smart they are, they would always make the right decision at the right time? Which feels better? To speak to them in these terms--"Now I know I'm older and wiser than you are and you really don't have enough experience to make the right decision, so go forth timidly and don't do anything without asking me," or to say to them, "You are born as a brilliant being with a guidance system and you have a smorgasbord to choose from and I'm exhilarated by what is before you and I know the decisions you make will always be appropriate for you." Which feels better? Ask them to live by your standards (which never worked for you)--where you say, "Here I stand in my perfection," or to say to them, "You never get it done--every place you stand there's going to be something more you want. And you have the potential to achieve anything you want." Which feels better? To limit them or to offer them expansion? Which feels better? To trust them or to doubt them? Which feels better? To love them or to worry about them? In other words, these are simple choices. Sometimes you say, "But Abraham, you don't understand the times in which we are living." And we say, "Of course we understand the times in which you are living. It's always been the same. There have always been those things you want and those things you don't want--and those things you want for your children and those things you don't want for your children. But the law of attraction has always been the same--when you say NO to anything, you are
including it in your vibration. So when you say NO to your children, NO you must not do that, what you are doing is making very sure that they are including in their vibration the very thing that you do not want them to include their vibration." And most of the time, they feel that. They may not know what is happening. They just know this dialogue with Dad or this dialogue with Mom does not feel good, and they want more than anything just to get out of that vibrational range. And they will go to any lengths usually to do it. And then you say, "My children are deceiving me. My
children are not minding me. My children are not respecting me." And we say, "Your children are following the guidance that is coming forth from within them, and if you will know that and trust that and encourage that and support that, you will find your children living expansive, exciting lives that will thrill you every step along their path."
What is the very worst thing that could happen to anyone? They could get disconnected from source energy. More parents are doing the very worst thing that could happen to their children through their negative expectations. Think about your own experience. Which do you prefer? Do prefer to be trusted or doubted? It's easy, isn't it? Do you prefer to be appreciated or criticized? Do you like it best when somebody sees your magnificent potential, or when they see you screwing up? What do you like amplified back to you? Your positive aspects or your negative aspects? So
as you acknowledge which feels better, which feels better--and then you always do that which feels better in relation to anyone who matters to you--you will always be the catalyst you were born to be--the catalyst to connect them to source energy.
Abraham Workshop Boulder, June 5 & 6

Money or event?

Abraham:

"The attention that you give to your idea is not what creates the idea. Contrast created it.
The attention that you give to it is your effort and success at lining up with it. So when you get completely, vibrationally lined up with your idea now the impulse to act is so powerful you can't talk yourself out of it. There's no prodding or motivation that's necessary. In fact, the Universe is just yielding things to you and you're looking at them and you're FEELING powerful enthusiasm for it. If you don't feel enthusiasm for it, the energy isn't lined up and we would not take the action.
Asker
So an example would be, how would I win the lottery if I don't feel the urge to go and buy the ticket? You know what I mean?
Audience laughter….
Abraham:
Well, like that commercial says, if you don't play you can't win and so--
Asker:
That's what I mean--
Abraham:We understand that motivation and if you were looking at that one vortex as the avenue through which your abundance will come then we understand how there could be a sort of feeling of urgency about itWe're going to give this to you in a way that you can really hear it….If life has caused you to put a big request for a lot of money in your vibrational escrow and you're in the place where you're not even thinking about buying a lottery ticket because the means in which it comes is irrelevant to you, you're so sure it's coming…Now you're in that place. So then, when you buy the (lottery) ticket, it just feels like the next logical step. You don't get that big buzz or that disappointment from it. You're lined up with it you see. The words that we're wanting to find for you are these, when your desire, and your perspective about your desire are in alignment, it feels far less than the desire you all think desire feels like.It's interesting, what most people call desire is really a mixed bag of wanting something that I don't know how I'm gonna get it. You've become comfortable with that mixture, that feeling. So it feels like excitement, adventure, trepidation, uneasiness. When you want purely, there's no downside to it. It just feels done. It feels done. And there is an interest in the way it will unfold but not a strong interest because it's done. It's done. We so want you to capture the spirit of that which we know. When you ask it goes into your vibraitonal escrow and it is answered vibrationally and it is done. It's done. It's really, it's done. It's DONE. It's done, it's done, it's done, it's DONE, it's done, it's done we're getting carried away we want you, it's done, did we tell you, it's done, it's done, it's done it's done. Now if there's a part of you that says "no it's not" (audience laughter) I don't see it I didn't buy the ticket I don't have the money it's not done, that part of you that's saying it's not done is the vibrational contradiction that makes you do all kinds of things to justify the doneness of it and everything you do to justify the doneness of something that is done pulls you in the opposite direction. So if you were to say to us "I have been asking for a lot of money and I know it's lined up in my vibrational escrow and occasionally I buy a lottery ticket but the lottery tickets are not important to me because I know it's done. I know it's a done deal. I know that it's coming and I know the way that it will come will unfold and I am more excited about the unfolding and the fun of the unfolding than I am about the doneness of it because the doneness is so inevitable. It's done it's done it's done it's done it's done. When you say that to us, when you GET IT that it's done and now you just get the FUN it's sort of like do you go to the movies to get to the end of it (laughter)Do you say to your girlfriend "let's go to the movie" and she'll say "why" And you'll say because "I want to get to the end of it" (more laughter)Do you go on vacation to get it done? "We're going to 27 cities", you say, "I've got them all plotted out, when we've been to all of them, we'll come back home" and then you look at it and you say, "wait a minute, we're already home. We're done. No point in going, we're done." (More laughter)There isn't anything you're doing to get it done. You want to win the lottery; you want the pile of money. It's a goal that you want. We want you to understand that it's done and we want you to get your KICKS from the thrill of the unfolding of it, you see, because there is a big thing that goes screwy with everyone who says " I want to be over there but I'm not". And when they say, "I'll be happier when I get over there" that tells the whole story; they can never get over there. When being happy is contingent on getting over there they'll never get there.But if they say, "I'm looking forward to being over there" and someone says "why will you be happier?" and you say, "not really, I'm really happy over here." "Well why are you so happy over here when you want to be over there?" and you say, "Well, partly because I've seen what's over there and I'm positively anticipating it but there's so much wonderful stuff that I'm seeing that's over here and frankly", you say, "I'm looking forward to the journey between here and there, I think that was what I was born for, I think I was born for this eternal, expanding journey, you see."We know it's tricky because so many say, if I could just find the lover than everything would be alright, if I could just lose 40 pounds then everything would be just right, if I could just get my finances ion order if I could just move into that beautiful new house…if I could just, if I could just, if I could just…if it were not for this I would be happy, if it were not for THIS that I have my attention upon…We say, that's right, this LACK of what you want is so active in your vibration that it will not let you close the vibrational gap, you see.So, you got a bit more than you bargained for here with your wonderful question. People say "well how does action fit in" and we say it's the joyful way you express life but it's not the way you make anything happenAnd people argue with that because they say I see people picking up bales of hay and moving them over there and if they weren't picking them up…. we say, there'd be another way to figure it out. I see those truck loads of oranges, somebody is growing them and picking them and putting them and processing, there's a lot of action involved and we say yes there is action involved but THE ACTION OF YOUR WORLD IS NOT WHAT'S CAUSING THE EXPANSION OF IT. The creation of your world is about perspective and ideas it always has been, you see.So, when we say we want you to take action out of the equation, we don't mean stop acting, we mean stop making action important to the creation of something, MAKE IT IMPORTANT TO THE ENJOYING OF WHAT'S BEEN CREATED, you see. So, now take it further, we've sort of given you a basis.

Asker:I understand it's about the enjoyment of from where I am to where I want to be, okay.
Abraham:If you feel disappointed about where you are in relationship to where you want to be you'll never be able to be there. If you feel hopeful about where you are in relationship to where you want to be you've already begun closing the gap. If you feel eager about where you're going if you feel enthusiastic if you feel passion now you're on the way. If you feel discouraged you're not closing the gap. If you feel anger you're widening the gap. If you feel frustration you're sort of stuck right where you are YOUR EMOTIONS ARE YOUR INDICATION OF YOUR MOVEMENT. So what you're reaching for is satisfaction with where you are and eager for more.It's so strange, do you know the FASTEST WAY TO GET SOMEWHERE ELSE IS TO FOCUS POSITIVELY ON WHERE YOU ARE because step one which is your work life causes you to do that and step three which is your work are two entirely different steps.Follow this picture for a moment; you're really going to like this:So you were Source energy, you came forth into this physical body, you experienced contrast and in the contrast, you gave birth, you gave birth, you gave birth, you gave birth. Rockets of desires, one after the other, rockets of desires until you've created this vibrational escrow. Now FEEEL the power of that. Feel, feel, feel what it must be. Feel what it was even before you got busy in the contrast and feel what it must be now that you have been busy in the contrast and feel the exponential expansion of it. Now that LOA and the Source within you have focused upon it, feel the power of that, you see. Feel how big that is. We can see why you'd want to be part of that. Feel the bigness of it. Now, focus in a doubtful way about it and feel the discord. Feel how annoying this swirling magestry is since you're nowhere near it. Feel how unpleasant that is. In other words, such a difference between you and you. Really a strong pulling apart so-to-speak.But now, start speaking more optimistically even though you're sort of making it up and feel the little bit of relief that you feel as you begin allowing yourself to move in the direction of it. Now you still got this other swirling vibration going on so you're not going willingly but you are going because this is huge…when you croak it will take you right there. It's huge.
So now you're making an effort to be even more optimistic, even more positive about it. You're feeling better and better as you're coming closer and closer to it and eventually you'll come so close to this fast moving energy your breath will be taken away. You'll begin to feel exhilaration and excitement and passion and clarity as you get closer and closer to it. And once it catches you and sweeps you it will put you right into the eye of this vortex WHERE EVERTHING STANDS STILL. WHERE THERE'S NO FAST MOVING ENERGY WHERE IT WILL FEEL LIKE THAT'S THE WAY IT WAS ALL ALONG…Haven't you seen those kind of people with that kind of confidence…their tongues aren't hanging out, they're not worrying about anything. It seems that they say it and it happens and they say it and it happens and you're over there really annoyed at what you're witnessing with them (audience laughter). You want to let the Laws of Universe work for you, you see and the way you do it is by letting yourself get—granted it takes some work—in the vibrational proximity of who you really are and when you get close enough off you go and THAT"S the day you buy the winning lottery ticket, you see. THAT"S the day.Haven't been thinking about it, Haven't been thinking about it, Haven't been thinking about it, Haven't been thinking about it, Haven't been thinking about it, Haven't thinking about it, Haven't been thinking about it, Haven't been thinking about it, Haven't been thinking about it, Haven't been thinking about it, Haven't been thinking about it, Haven't thinking about it, Haven't been thinking about it.What'cha been thinking about?I'm happy, I like you, I like that, did this, having fun, liked this, liked this, liked this, this is good, I really like this, isn't that beautiful. Oh, look at this long list of positive aspects, look how good this is, look how good this is, allowing, allowing, allowing, allowing, allowing, Here's this thing over here, pulsing, pulsing, you're allowing, allowing, allowing, allowing, allowing, allowing, coming closer, all of a sudden, UUUUMMM, idea within you so powerful that wild horses could not keep you from it. You know it in the way that you knew you would be called on here today. You knew that. You lined up your energy, you knew it and we had no choice, you were far back there, we had no choice but to find you and bring you forward because you had lined up with what was swirling over there and the laws of the Universe said it MUST be so no resistance in your vibration so there it is, what feels like instant manifestation, it's not. You were getting closer and closer, you said for how many months? Three months you've been thinking about this. Three months you've been thinking about it, talking about it to yourself, thinking about it, getting into alignment with it, getting inside the vibrational escrow, being there, feeling it, knowing it. So it had to be it had to be all things work that way there is NOTHING that you can not be or do or have you just have to practice the thought of it until it is so familiar that it would be odd to think otherwise. Doesn't matter if it's through the lottery ticket or whatever, it's inevitable it must come and the Universe has 20 or 30 or 40 immediate opportunities line dup in any moment in time. Good."
--Abraham-HicksFt Laudedale 4/02/08

Make Peace with Where You Are

We always begin by asking: Those manifestations that have not yet come about are still pleasing to you, yes? And some lie and say yes, others say no, but we want you to come to the place where you say yes and really mean it. "Yes, there are things that I want that have not come into manifestation yet. There are things I want that I can't even see any way of them happening—but they are still refreshing and delightful to me. I still feel anticipation. I still feel encouraged. They still feel fresh and good to me." And we want that for you.
We want your unfulfilled desires to feel good to you, because, well, there are two reasons: If you cannot make peace with where you are, then the unfulfilled desires are very slow in becoming fulfilled because that angst you feel about things not yet happening, is an indication of a vibration that's literally holding it apart, from you.
So, when you're sick and you want to be well, and you've been sick for a long time and it doesn't seem like you're getting better, or when you have one of those diagnoses that says you're probably not going to get better, and so, instead of feeling hopeful, you feel fearful— improvement is very hard to come. In fact, it cannot come under those conditions.
The vibrational difference between feeling hopeful and feeling fearful is the difference between getting well and not getting well. It's the difference between holding this condition on and on and on, or letting it go.
So, in the same way, we say, your current financial affairs could be not good. You could have more bills than you have income. You could have people hounding you on the telephone or beating on your door every day… And we say, so that's what-is; that's the action journey that you are upon. But you could have that financial condition percolating along and you could feel hopeful, or, you could have that condition percolating along and you could feel fearful. And the difference between fearful and hopeful is the difference between things improving for you.
This is a Vibrational Universe and you are Vibrational Beings. You don't set your radio dial on 630 AM and expect to hear what's being broadcast on 98.6 FM. You understand you've got to line those frequencies up, and so you do. You don't stubbornly set it on the station that you don't want to hear and then demand that the laws of physics change so that you can hear it anyway, without you doing anything about it… You can't be beating the drum of things gone wrong—and offering a vibration about things going wrong—and be in the vibrational place of receiving what you are wanting.
Make peace with wherever you stand. And here's the most important part: When you feel despair, or anything that doesn't feel good, and you reach for a thought that feels better, what comes right along with that is a conscious awareness that you do have some control of your experience. And friends, we cannot emphasize enough the importance of that conscious awareness that you can do something about the way you feel.
When you choose a thought that feels better than the thought that you were choosing before, and you consciously acknowledge that you had the power to choose it, and that you did choose it, and that it did change your vibrational frequency— now, there's no place you cannot go. Now, that cloud of despair, that cloud of not being able to control your own experience goes away.
There is not anything that any of you want—whether it's a material object, a state of being, a relationship, a circumstance or event… there's nothing that you have ever wanted or anybody you've ever known has ever wanted—that is for any other reason than you think you will feel better in the having of it… And when you show yourself that you can feel better just because you've decided that you want to feel better, and that you have the power to choose a thought that feels better, now, you're on your way. And there's nowhere that you cannot go along this Emotional Scale. And when you make it up there into the consistent range of feeling pretty darn wonderful, then wonderful things become the basis of your experience.
Sometimes well-meaning people will encourage you to get happy faster than you can. And the reason that we say that is because, as we said earlier, you cannot put your radio dial on 630 AM and hear what's being broadcast on 98.6 FM; the frequencies have to match up. And if you are in despair, or fear, or anger, you can't jump all the way into bliss; you can't even get a whiff of bliss. It's a different vibrational frequency.
So, what we have noticed as we've been watching you, we notice that when you try to jump from anger or despair all the way to bliss, you don't make the jump; you can't possibly do it. And it's not because you're not good; it's because Law of Attraction is not going to give you access to thoughts or memories or experiences, or other people, that's very far from where you are offering your vibration.
It is so important that you decide today (well, you can decide tomorrow; you can decide any time you want to, but it will be important to you when you make this decision) that you're not going to try to jump frequencies… It doesn't matter where you are; you can move gradually into increasingly better places.
The thing that is so important is that you, now, once and for all, make a decision that the relativity you're going to be aware of is only going to be the relationship between how I am feeling, and how I want to feel. In other words, My dominant intent is to find the best-feeling thoughts that I can find from where I am. Not the best-feeling thought I've ever thought, or not the best-feeling thought that anybody has ever thought, but just the best-feeling thought that I have access to, right now.